I
wouldn’t consider myself very physically affectionate. I like to hug and kiss
family and close friends, but I’m not the kind of person who’s going to kiss
you hello or goodbye or give you a huge hug five minutes after we’ve met.
However, I’m starting to rethink this practice after 3 months of living in
Palestine. Men hold hands or link arms while walking down the street (unlike in
the States, this does not indicate a romantic relationship) and women may kiss
a friend they haven’t seen in a while or one they just saw the day before.
Last
week, I had a great day hanging out with a colleague: she invited me to her
house for lunch and even took me out for nargileh afterwards. We talked for a
long time. She was so warm and such a good listener; I can tell she is going to
be one of my allies. So yesterday was the faculty meeting and I hadn’t seen my
friend all week. I walked up to her while she was speaking to another
colleague, said hello and gave her a quick pat on the back. But then she gave
me a kind of strange look and there was an awkward couple of seconds that I
couldn’t put my finger on. Later, I realized “Duh, she was expecting you to
give her a kiss on the cheek!”
And
now I feel like Jerry Seinfeld perseverating on something very banal: What
should I do next time? Should I go in for the hug or will she be expecting a
kiss on the cheek? Can I ever do the back rub/pat again or is that completely
off the table?
Maybe
living here will have me giving out hugs and kisses more liberally. Or maybe it
won’t. We shall see.
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